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What I Learned” is a guest post series of readers telling their personal stories about lessons they have learned about relationships in hopes of helping us all grow and cherish the relationships that matter the most to us. If you would like to submit a story for this series, click here. This guest post is by Alicia Perez.

Two years before my husband and I were married, I left to serve with a ministry for a year in South Africa. Young in our relationship, we hadn’t yet celebrated our birthdays together and planned a snowshoeing trip beneath the stars at Mount Seymour in lieu. In the weeks leading to this special faux birthday I listened carefully for his favourites.

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Dear Hypothetically Gay Child

tim chan —  August 21, 2012 — 6 Comments

Yesterday I read two letters from fathers to gay sons that have been going viral.

The first letter (posted on Reddit) is from a father who disowning his son for being gay. “Don’t expect any further conversations from me. No communication at all. I will not come visit, nor do I want you in my house,” the father writes.

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Ah, summer.
Sunny days.

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My Baby’s First Word

tim chan —  August 10, 2012 — 1 Comment

I always hoped I would be there to witness my baby’s first word.

It happened today. I was there.

But I missed it.

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My parents-in-law are in town from Toronto, visiting us for 10 days. It’s great to have them with us because we only see them once or twice a year (not counting Skype video calls). Do you know the best thing about them being here?

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Last weekend, after putting our baby to sleep, my wife and I had a chance to watch the movie “We bought a Zoo“. It was a fun and heartwarming movie about family and adventure. There were times in the movie that we laughed. There were times my wife cried (but not me, because I am a coldhearted strong man). It was one of those movies that after you finish watching, your heart feels fuller and you are happy that you are alive.

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“After the baby came, I haven’t had time to pray, read the Bible, journal, go to church, or attend small group.  In fact, I barely have enough time to shower, let alone think about God!”
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The older I get, the more I’m grateful for the family God has given me. For my 31st birthday, I want to tell them how proud I am of them and how much I love them. It seems cliché to say this, but I don’t tell them enough. [Warning, this post might seem a bit corny and sappy. Though with age, I don’t mind as much] So here are 31 reasons I’m proud of my family.
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The Cookie Principle

olive chan —  July 2, 2008

[This is an exerpt written by Robert Currie in the March 2001 Focus on the Family magazine]

“A young girl explains the world to her newborn brother.

I’m your 5-year-old sister, Lori, and you’re my baby brother, Alex. Since you’re only 2 weeks old, I’m going to ‘splain life, ’cause it’s not easy for you. I know. I was young once, too.

Grown-ups can’t make up their minds. First they want one thing and then another. I know what I want. I want a cookie, but Mommy said, “No, how about a banana?” She said a cookie will ruin my appetite for supper. I don’t want supper. Supper ruins my appetite for a cookie. And I don’t want a banana. I want a cookie.

You see, grown-ups are always trying to get us to do stuf we don’t want to do. If there’s a TV show I want to watch, Mommy tries to get me to color or play a game. By the time I get to be a grown-up, I won’t know what I want anymore.

But kids know what they want. Do we want to go to bed? No. Do we want a cookie? Yes. When was the last time somebody asked kids if they wanted to do something and the kids said, “We don’t know”?

I kinda feel sorry for Mommy and Daddy. They can’t help it. They’re grown-ups. They can’t decide whether to leave the toilet seat up or down. Daddy wants it up. Mommy wants it down. They were talking real loud about it today. I asked them why they were arguing. Daddy said they weren’t arguing. He said they were discussing. After they were done, I snuck in the bathroom. I put the toilet seat back up so I could hear them discuss it again.

Mommy can’t decide what to fix for dinner. I told her to fix cookies. She said no. In the morning, she can’t decide what to wear. Daddy asked her what she want to do Saturday. She said she doesn’t know.

Daddy is just as bad. Each night he grows whiskers, but in the morning he changes his mind and shaves them off. Then he sits in his chair with his ‘mote control and changes channels all the time. Daddy’s been a grown-up for too long; he doesn’t know what to watch. I bet when he was a kid he wanted a cookie real bad but his parents made him eat different foods like bananas and stuff.

He doesn’t even know which job he should do. He is thinking about changing jobs, but it’s hard for him to decide. So Daddy listened to a tape. The man on the tape said people who are ‘cessful figure out what they want and go after it. In that case, I’m going to be real ‘cessful, ’cause I really want a cookie.

When the tape was over, Mommy was nice. She talked real sweet to Daddy and asked him which job he really wanted. Daddy was sad. He shook his head and said he didn’t know. So Mommy hugged him. I hugged him, too, and I gave him a cookie.”

And he said: “I tell you the truth, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven.
~Matthew 18:3~

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