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[We recently celebrated our 8th wedding anniversary. Thinking back, attending a marriage conference was one of the memories that stood out to us. This is a guest post by our dear friend, Monica Garibay, who incidentally attended the same marriage conference we did.]

A few years ago, I had the opportunity to attend a Christian marriage conference. My husband and I decided to go not because we had a particular problem to solve, or because we were on the edge of divorce. Rather, we saw it as an opportunity to get away and work more on our relationship. I believe that human beings are social beings. However, interpersonal relations are the hardest to keep healthy and strong on a continuous basis unless we make a conscious effort of doing so. When my friends ask my opinion about whether or not attending a marriage conference is worth it, I tell them about my experience.

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Dear Depressed Me,

I love you. But I haven’t always loved you like this. I used to struggle with accepting who you were. I used to love you partially—with some reservations and hesitancies. I used to dislike you. Resent you at times, even. But my love for you is different now. It’s deeper and fuller.
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Becoming a parent has made me more compassionate toward God. It might sound strange, but that’s the change I’ve noticed in me. Prior to having a child, there were many times when I would ask, “How could you do this, God?” I would think that He was being mean or not paying attention. I would question His intentions. I still wonder what He’s up to sometimes. But my perspective has changed. I give Him the benefit of the doubt more often now. I know that there’s more on the table than my personal happiness.
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This is a preview of a guest post I wrote for my friend Daisy Go‘s blog: My Journey Into Motherhood

Living life with an infant, I feel like I am learning afresh that love is often a discipline. The word “discipline” might come as a surprise to you.  But what I mean is that love is made up of all the little choices I make throughout the day.  Some of these choices are easy (like dropping everything to play with my smiling baby) but many times the choices require more effort.
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[Finding My Voice is a series of blog posts on key decisions I made in my 20s.]

Defining decision:  To love myself as my neighbour
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My Dear Firstborn

olive chan —  November 28, 2011 — 3 Comments

My dear firstborn,

From the visit to our doctor today, it seems clear that we are in our final days of sharing this unique and precious physical connection; of you living inside of me.  The doctor said that I am close to being 2 cm dilated and that your head is quite low.  My body also tells me something is changing.  I am getting more frequent cramps and practice contractions and the random tears and hot flashes tell me my hormones are on a roller-coaster ride.  You are definitely readying yourself to make your grand entrance into the world!
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[Finding My Voice is a series of blog posts on key decisions I made in my 20s.]

Defining decision: as much as possible, choose love over fear
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[Finding My Voice is a series of blog posts on key decisions I made in my 20s.]

Defining Decision:  To marry Tim
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[Finding My Voice is a series of blog posts on key decisions I made in my 20s.]

Defining decision:  Giving love a chance
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How to trap a husband

olive chan —  August 30, 2011 — 3 Comments

As this pregnancy has progressed, I have found myself struggling with fears and insecurities I never thought existed in me.  In the last couple months, I’ve asked T at least three or more times a day week a common yet impossible to answer question, “Am I fat??!
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