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This is a preview of a guest post I wrote for my friend Daisy Go‘s blog: My Journey Into Motherhood

Living life with an infant, I feel like I am learning afresh that love is often a discipline. The word “discipline” might come as a surprise to you.  But what I mean is that love is made up of all the little choices I make throughout the day.  Some of these choices are easy (like dropping everything to play with my smiling baby) but many times the choices require more effort.
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[Finding My Voice is a series of blog posts on key decisions I made in my 20s.]

Defining decision:  To love myself as my neighbour
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My Dear Firstborn

olive chan —  November 28, 2011 — 3 Comments

My dear firstborn,

From the visit to our doctor today, it seems clear that we are in our final days of sharing this unique and precious physical connection; of you living inside of me.  The doctor said that I am close to being 2 cm dilated and that your head is quite low.  My body also tells me something is changing.  I am getting more frequent cramps and practice contractions and the random tears and hot flashes tell me my hormones are on a roller-coaster ride.  You are definitely readying yourself to make your grand entrance into the world!
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[Finding My Voice is a series of blog posts on key decisions I made in my 20s.]

Defining decision: as much as possible, choose love over fear
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[Finding My Voice is a series of blog posts on key decisions I made in my 20s.]

Defining Decision:  To marry Tim
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[Finding My Voice is a series of blog posts on key decisions I made in my 20s.]

Defining decision:  Giving love a chance
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How to trap a husband

olive chan —  August 30, 2011 — 3 Comments

As this pregnancy has progressed, I have found myself struggling with fears and insecurities I never thought existed in me.  In the last couple months, I’ve asked T at least three or more times a day week a common yet impossible to answer question, “Am I fat??!
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Tim and I had an interesting conversation with a friend last night.  In the course of our conversation, we stumbled upon this question, “Does growing your knowledge of a person enable your love for them to grow?”

For example, when I married Tim, I could wholeheartedly say that I loved him.  But in the last 3 years, I have gotten to know him so much better than the day we got married.  So my love for him now includes all those dimensions of him (positive and negative) that I had previously not known.  Likewise, our friend yesterday shared with us something that we hadn’t known before, so now, when we think of our friendship and the love we have for our friend, it includes that added dimension.

Or perhaps the love itself does not grow.  Perhaps what grows with knowledge is the awareness of what our love encompasses.  After all, love is a choice.

As it relates to God, I can say today that I love God, but each day as I discover more of Him and experience more with Him, that little word takes on richer and fuller meaning.

Any thoughts?

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