Dear Single Men,
I am writing this letter to warn you about marriage and parenting. I used to be single, and now I’m married with a baby. Life is very different.
VERY different.
How to Find a Mature Man
“I can’t find any mature men to date.” All too often, this is what I hear from women – especially Christian women. They bemoan the fact that every man they know is not mature enough (or the mature ones are all taken). Well, here’s what I think: the mature man is difficult to find because the mature man is a myth. He does not exist.
8 Essentials to do Before Your First Anniversary
The first year of marriage only happens once. So when we got married, we figured it would be good for us to intentionally invest in it to set a good foundation for our future together; to make the first year count. Since we viewed our relationship with each other as the base for our future family, we wanted to pour into it as much as we could right at the start so what when the storms came (as they inevitably would), we would have something to fall back on. Now that we have a baby, we are very glad we did this.
Why I Refused a Diamond Ring
When people see my simple wedding band, some of them wonder where my diamond solitaire engagement ring is. Well, I never got one. Instead, I got a goat. Strange, you say? Well, let me tell you the story.
My Introvert Life: In Marriage
[My Introvert Life is a series exploring my introversion as it presents itself in various life contexts.]
When people find out I’m an introvert, the most common question is, “So what is Tim? An introvert or an extrovert?” Well, we tell them, on the sliding scale of introversion/extroversion, Tim is more extroverted than I am, but not an extreme extrovert. He will still need down time at home, but definitely not as much as I need it. He starts to get restless if he doesn’t get out of the house at least once a day. Whereas I can go four days without leaving our apartment and not notice it! (Ok, by day four, I am restless too.)
When my Wife is Mad at me and I Don’t Know Why
The April Fool’s Day prank I played on my wife backfired. She was super mad at me. And I didn’t know why. Here’s the story.
Why I did a 3-month Performance Review for my Wife
[This is a preview of a blog post I wrote for Converge Magazine.]
After 3 months of marriage, I decided to have a performance review with my wife. You heard it right, a performance review. I let her know what she was doing well as a wife, and what she needed to improve on. Before you write me off as a chauvinistic jerk (which at times I can be), my wife did the same for me. It was a mutual process. And it was very helpful for strengthening our marriage.