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How to Find a Mature Man

“I can’t find any mature men to date.” All too often, this is what I hear from women – especially Christian women.  They bemoan the fact that every man they know is not mature enough (or the mature ones are all taken).  Well, here’s what I think: the mature man is difficult to find because the mature man is a myth.  He does not exist.

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My Introvert Life: In Marriage

[My Introvert Life is a series exploring my introversion as it presents itself in various life contexts.]

When people find out I’m an introvert, the most common question is, “So what is Tim? An introvert or an extrovert?”  Well, we tell them, on the sliding scale of introversion/extroversion, Tim is more extroverted than I am, but not an extreme extrovert.  He will still need down time at home, but definitely not as much as I need it.  He starts to get restless if he doesn’t get out of the house at least once a day.  Whereas I can go four days without leaving our apartment and not notice it!  (Ok, by day four, I am restless too.)

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My Introvert Life: As a Single

[My Introvert Life is a series exploring my introversion as it presents itself in various life contexts.]

I have a confession:  as a single person, I struggled immensely with accepting my introverted needs.  “Sorry, I need to hang out by myself tonight,” didn’t exactly sound cool, you know?  Mercifully, when I was in school, I had a lot of art classes, which allowed me to work in relative silence on my own.  And for most of my single years, I had the energy of youth on my side, so I could get away with hopping from one event to another without having to give it much thought.  For a while, anyway.

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