introvert-marriage

My Introvert Life: In Marriage

[My Introvert Life is a series exploring my introversion as it presents itself in various life contexts.]

When people find out I’m an introvert, the most common question is, “So what is Tim? An introvert or an extrovert?”  Well, we tell them, on the sliding scale of introversion/extroversion, Tim is more extroverted than I am, but not an extreme extrovert.  He will still need down time at home, but definitely not as much as I need it.  He starts to get restless if he doesn’t get out of the house at least once a day.  Whereas I can go four days without leaving our apartment and not notice it!  (Ok, by day four, I am restless too.)

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Why I did a 3-month Performance Review for my Wife

[This is a preview of a blog post I wrote for Converge Magazine.]

After 3 months of marriage, I decided to have a performance review with my wife. You heard it right, a performance review. I let her know what she was doing well as a wife, and what she needed to improve on. Before you write me off as a chauvinistic jerk (which at times I can be), my wife did the same for me. It was a mutual process. And it was very helpful for strengthening our marriage.

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13 Ideas for Planning a Memorable and Enjoyable Wedding

With wedding season almost upon us, we thought we’d write a post for people who are getting married, or people who are helping others plan a wedding. We got married almost four years ago and were the General Managers at my sister’s wedding a couple summers ago. We’ve also been in the bridal party for several weddings and probably attended over 50 weddings over our lifetimes. These are some ideas that we’ve collected along the way to make a wedding memorable and enjoyable.

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How to Fight Fairly with Your Spouse (or anyone else)

When Tim proposed to me, he gave me a set of boxing gloves.  I remember opening up the gift and being quite shocked.  Was this his idea of being romantic?  Then I read the written note attached to them: “Our relationship has had its share of fights, challenges, and difficulties.  And we have and are continuing to learn how to work through these. The boxing gloves are for us to share.  One for you, one for me.  We will fight together.”  Suddenly, even a diamond ring could not have been more romantic!
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