Mother knows best

Dear Brand New Mom

Dear Brand New Mom,

I remember feeling like I was semi-equipped for the first three months of my baby’s life. Beyond that, it was a big, blank mystery. Maybe I wouldn’t have been ready to hear about what came after those first weeks, but in retrospect, I think I would have appreciated if someone had given me a heads up or some pointers. Anyway, as one who’s only had ten months of motherhood experience, I’m not that far ahead. But hopefully what I have to say will be helpful to you. Here are some things I wish someone had told me:Read More

stop looking for mature men

How to Find a Mature Man

“I can’t find any mature men to date.” All too often, this is what I hear from women – especially Christian women.  They bemoan the fact that every man they know is not mature enough (or the mature ones are all taken).  Well, here’s what I think: the mature man is difficult to find because the mature man is a myth.  He does not exist.

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How to Fight Fairly with Your Spouse (or anyone else)

When Tim proposed to me, he gave me a set of boxing gloves.  I remember opening up the gift and being quite shocked.  Was this his idea of being romantic?  Then I read the written note attached to them: “Our relationship has had its share of fights, challenges, and difficulties.  And we have and are continuing to learn how to work through these. The boxing gloves are for us to share.  One for you, one for me.  We will fight together.”  Suddenly, even a diamond ring could not have been more romantic!
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